He stays so calm. All the time. Not me. I get uspet about stuff. I told him to teach me how to stay calm. He says it is not worth getting upset about. No good is going to come from me thinking about it. You cannot change it by thinking about it. It is not going to do me any good to think about it. He is right. I have been really just repeating this stuff over and over when I get obsessive. it helps.